If there is one thing I really hate, is when a girl is going out with a dude that gangbangs and/or is not doing anything with his life to try to make it better but yet are giving credit for trying.
A dog does not receive a treat for trying to complete a task..only to when the dog actually completes the trick…
So why give credit for a guy who is THINKING about to gangbanging or selling drugs and who's trying to go back to school.
There's a difference between actually saying you're going to do something and actually doing it.
These kind of individuals chose (action) to join a gang, they chose (action) to sell drugs.
I know times are hard but I know people who have 2 jobs, they may hate their jobs but they still manage to have 2 and you're telling me you can't find one???
If you have a man/woman whose going to school or works and takes care of his/her family..appreciate them to the fullest because as girls, you guys love a challenge and try to make a bad boy into a goodboy. People have to remember, not all challenges are rewarding..but they do make you learn things.
You may be looking for a challenge but you have a blessing of a good person in front of you, and yes, blessings do sometimes comes your way easy and unexpected.
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
Marriage
So I've been talking to my friend a lot lately about marriage.
What makes people want to get married was a huge question for me.
I thought about it very deeply and I thought why not take it to the next level and get married.
I started seeing no point in being in a relationship for a long time and treating each other like if you guys were married.
Then again, marriage is a huge commitment that is taken between 2 individuals who are deeply in love and know what they want and I guess that is what I long for in the future.
Somebody I can trust with all my heart and they could do so as well. Somebody I can grown old with and cherish her every day. Of course there are going to be ups and downs, nothing is perfect..but that is the reason of getting married, almost getting rid of the option leaving each other and working it out together.
I am highly against domestic violence and if I were to get married I know I would invest in a punching bag rather than hitting my wife,lol
But it also applies to females as well, just because it is not right for a man to hit a woman, women should not provoke and and dare the man to hit her.
Other than that, in order to get married I have to remember that I have to be able to support my family. I want to get my education first and get a great job. If God wants to bless me with the trustworthy beautiful wife then I'm up to it but I can see why he hasn't done it yet, because as much as I would want to, I don't think I'm ready yet.
In the meantime I'm going to enjoy this single life and get myself educated one way or another and prepare for my future.
What makes people want to get married was a huge question for me.
I thought about it very deeply and I thought why not take it to the next level and get married.
I started seeing no point in being in a relationship for a long time and treating each other like if you guys were married.
Then again, marriage is a huge commitment that is taken between 2 individuals who are deeply in love and know what they want and I guess that is what I long for in the future.
Somebody I can trust with all my heart and they could do so as well. Somebody I can grown old with and cherish her every day. Of course there are going to be ups and downs, nothing is perfect..but that is the reason of getting married, almost getting rid of the option leaving each other and working it out together.
I am highly against domestic violence and if I were to get married I know I would invest in a punching bag rather than hitting my wife,lol
But it also applies to females as well, just because it is not right for a man to hit a woman, women should not provoke and and dare the man to hit her.
Other than that, in order to get married I have to remember that I have to be able to support my family. I want to get my education first and get a great job. If God wants to bless me with the trustworthy beautiful wife then I'm up to it but I can see why he hasn't done it yet, because as much as I would want to, I don't think I'm ready yet.
In the meantime I'm going to enjoy this single life and get myself educated one way or another and prepare for my future.
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Components Of Being In A Relationship
I believe that being in a relationship consists of these things:
- Love
- Trust
- Communication
Love is not loosing that passion for one another regardless of the time years you both have been together. Love is showing and giving respect to each other as much as you guys can. Love is setting boundaries and limits where the relationship is respected and if one lets another disrespect the relationship, then they are not really showing respect to their loved. Love is word that you give meaning behind it so why not still show it even when the person you love already knows you love them.
Trust!!! You can't really love somebody without trusting them. If you have no trust on them, you better believe there is going to be a lot of unnecessary arguments.
It takes years to build trust and a second to loose that trust, so therefore, for me, if a person I'm with tells me they trust me with all their heart, then it means more to me for them to tell me that they trust me rather than telling me that they love me.. i say this because trust is more valuable to me because you can have it today and be gone tomorrow.
Last but not least is communication. Communication is really important because in a argument, you need to speak as well as to listen. One person cannot be doing all the times, one person cannot be doing the calls all the time, and one person cannot make be the one making the effort to see one another..if that's the case then why not call or text or see a brick wall?? That is basically what one person is doing if they are going all the effort to communicate. You need 2 individuals to communicate.
If you are not married, and somebody is not willing to meet these components with you..then why be in a relationship with them…you would be better be off alone.
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Boy And His Blind Father
I once was helping my friend with her college h.w and I ran across this story and I wanted to share it with you guys, it titled, "Boy And His Blind Father"
This teenager lived alone with his father, and the two of them had a
very special relationship.
very special relationship.
The son was crazy about football and was always involved in every game
but even though
he was always on the bench, his
father was always in the stands cheering. He never missed a game. This
young man was still
the smallest of the class when he
entered high school. But his father continued to encourage him but also
made it very clear
that he did not have to play football
if he didn't want to. However, the young man loved football and decided
to hang in there.
He was determined to try his best at
every practice, and perhaps he'd get to play when he became a senior.
All through high
school he never missed a practice nor
a game, but remained a bench warmer all four years. His faithful
father was always in the
stands, always with words of encouragement for him.
but even though
he was always on the bench, his
father was always in the stands cheering. He never missed a game. This
young man was still
the smallest of the class when he
entered high school. But his father continued to encourage him but also
made it very clear
that he did not have to play football
if he didn't want to. However, the young man loved football and decided
to hang in there.
He was determined to try his best at
every practice, and perhaps he'd get to play when he became a senior.
All through high
school he never missed a practice nor
a game, but remained a bench warmer all four years. His faithful
father was always in the
stands, always with words of encouragement for him.
When the young man went to college, he decided to try out for the
football team as a
"walk-on." Everyone was sure he could
never make the cut, but he did. The coach admitted that he kept him on
the roster because
he always puts his heart and soul to
every practice and at the same time, provided the other members with the
spirit and hustle
they badly needed.
The news that he had survived the cut thrilled him so much that he
rushed to the nearest
phone and called his father. His father
shared his excitement and was sent season tickets for all the college
games. This persistent
young athlete never missed practice
during his four years at college, but he never got to play in the game.
football team as a
"walk-on." Everyone was sure he could
never make the cut, but he did. The coach admitted that he kept him on
the roster because
he always puts his heart and soul to
every practice and at the same time, provided the other members with the
spirit and hustle
they badly needed.
The news that he had survived the cut thrilled him so much that he
rushed to the nearest
phone and called his father. His father
shared his excitement and was sent season tickets for all the college
games. This persistent
young athlete never missed practice
during his four years at college, but he never got to play in the game.
It was the end of his senior football season, and as he trotted onto
the practice field shortly
before the big play off game, the
coach met him with a telegram. The young man read the telegram and he
became deathly
silent..............
the practice field shortly
before the big play off game, the
coach met him with a telegram. The young man read the telegram and he
became deathly
silent..............
Swallowing hard, he mumbled to the coach, "My father died this morning.
Is it all right if I
miss practice today?" The coach put
his arm gently around his shoulder and said, "Take the rest of the week
off, son. And don't
even plan to come back to the
game on Saturday.
Is it all right if I
miss practice today?" The coach put
his arm gently around his shoulder and said, "Take the rest of the week
off, son. And don't
even plan to come back to the
game on Saturday.
Saturday arrived, and the game was not going well. In the third quarter,
when the team was
ten points behind, a silent young
man quietly slipped into the empty locker-room and put on his football
gear. As he ran onto
the sidelines, the coach and his
players were astounded to see
their faithful teammate back so soon. "Coach, please let me play. I've
just got to play
today," said the young man. The coach
pretended not to hear him. There was no way he wanted his worst
player in this close
playoff game. But the young man
persisted, and finally feeling sorry for the kid, the coach gave in.
"All right," he said.
when the team was
ten points behind, a silent young
man quietly slipped into the empty locker-room and put on his football
gear. As he ran onto
the sidelines, the coach and his
players were astounded to see
their faithful teammate back so soon. "Coach, please let me play. I've
just got to play
today," said the young man. The coach
pretended not to hear him. There was no way he wanted his worst
player in this close
playoff game. But the young man
persisted, and finally feeling sorry for the kid, the coach gave in.
"All right," he said.
"You can go in." Before long, the coach, the players and everyone in the
stands could not
believe their eyes. This little
un-known, who had never played before was doing everything right. The
opposing team
could not stop him. He ran, he
passed, blocked and tackled like a star. His team began to triumph. The
score was soon
tied. In the closing seconds of the
game, this kid intercepted a pass and ran all the way for the winning
touchdown. The fans
broke loose. His teammates hoisted
him onto their shoulders. Such cheering you've never heard! Finally,
after the stands had
emptied and the team had showered
and left the locker room, the coach noticed that the young man was
sitting quietly in the
corner all alone.
stands could not
believe their eyes. This little
un-known, who had never played before was doing everything right. The
opposing team
could not stop him. He ran, he
passed, blocked and tackled like a star. His team began to triumph. The
score was soon
tied. In the closing seconds of the
game, this kid intercepted a pass and ran all the way for the winning
touchdown. The fans
broke loose. His teammates hoisted
him onto their shoulders. Such cheering you've never heard! Finally,
after the stands had
emptied and the team had showered
and left the locker room, the coach noticed that the young man was
sitting quietly in the
corner all alone.
The coach came to him and said, "Kid, I can't believe it. You were
fantastic! Tell me what
got into you? How did you do
it?" He looked at the coach, with tears in his eyes, and said, "Well,
you knew my dad
died, but did you know that my dad
was blind?" The young man swallowed hard and forced a smile, "Dad came
to all my
games, but today was the first time he
could see me play, and I wanted to show him I could do it!"
fantastic! Tell me what
got into you? How did you do
it?" He looked at the coach, with tears in his eyes, and said, "Well,
you knew my dad
died, but did you know that my dad
was blind?" The young man swallowed hard and forced a smile, "Dad came
to all my
games, but today was the first time he
could see me play, and I wanted to show him I could do it!"
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Confusing Niceness with Likeness/ Flirting
We all know people that are flirts.. they flirt with any girl at any time, and same goes for women.
But why are these men and women considered flirts.
And there are people that re nice and get attacked by being called a flirt o_O ...
I think that it is all in our heads.
For example: There is a person you really find attractive, you just dropped a whole bunch of things on the floor and this attractive person comes over to help you out and smiles at you…more times than likely you are going to confuse his/hers niceness and that smile with likeness just because you find this person really attractive.
Another example: Let's suppose you find a person not attractive at all, and I'm not talking about looks, a person could be unattractive to you because of their attitude so lets suppose you hate this persons attitude and you merely dislike this person. The same thing occurred where this person helps you pick up the items and smiles at you. You are just going to think that it was really nice of them to help you out.
In the second example you didn't confuse the persons niceness just because of the fact you don't find that person attractive..but if it was the person you found attractive then more times than likely you would've been cheesy all day,lol
A lot of attractive people are considered flirty just because in one case they are flirty, but also the fact that they are attractive, their niceness if confused for that.
If your dream guy or girl is flirting with you, you are gonna feel like you are being swept off your feet with their kind words. But if an old perverted Mexican guy is calling you "Mamacita" you would feel disgusted.
In conclusion, I believe flirting is giving somebody your undivided attention and saying little sweet words that they will put in your ear regardless if they are attractive or not, if this person tells little sweet words to more than one person, then yea, they are a flirt… but just don't confuse niceness with likeness because you might end up hurt ;)
But why are these men and women considered flirts.
And there are people that re nice and get attacked by being called a flirt o_O ...
I think that it is all in our heads.
For example: There is a person you really find attractive, you just dropped a whole bunch of things on the floor and this attractive person comes over to help you out and smiles at you…more times than likely you are going to confuse his/hers niceness and that smile with likeness just because you find this person really attractive.
Another example: Let's suppose you find a person not attractive at all, and I'm not talking about looks, a person could be unattractive to you because of their attitude so lets suppose you hate this persons attitude and you merely dislike this person. The same thing occurred where this person helps you pick up the items and smiles at you. You are just going to think that it was really nice of them to help you out.
In the second example you didn't confuse the persons niceness just because of the fact you don't find that person attractive..but if it was the person you found attractive then more times than likely you would've been cheesy all day,lol
A lot of attractive people are considered flirty just because in one case they are flirty, but also the fact that they are attractive, their niceness if confused for that.
If your dream guy or girl is flirting with you, you are gonna feel like you are being swept off your feet with their kind words. But if an old perverted Mexican guy is calling you "Mamacita" you would feel disgusted.
In conclusion, I believe flirting is giving somebody your undivided attention and saying little sweet words that they will put in your ear regardless if they are attractive or not, if this person tells little sweet words to more than one person, then yea, they are a flirt… but just don't confuse niceness with likeness because you might end up hurt ;)
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
To Forgive and Forget
Forgive and forget is what most of us find really hard to do. A lot of the times we say we forgive somebody to end up bringing up the past over and over again to realize you haven't forgot about what happened.
We believe there are some things that are not easy to forgive and forget because we feel that if we forgive them, they will abuse your kindness and keep doing it over and over and over again. We do have a limit to tolerate everything, as well as we should, who wants to be a pushover?
I would ask my friends about forgiveness and I noticed that girls in general "Forgive but do not FORGET!!!"
The best thing I did was search the good book and read about what God felt about forgiveness.. and I came across this…
Heb 8:12
12 "For I will be merciful to their iniquities,
And I will remember their sins no more."
(NASB)
Which practically means God does forgive and Forget.. that is very great and all and good to know because that is a good example of forgiveness…but then again, I thought about the times I would ask for forgiveness and kept on doing the same thing over and over again…and that is where there is nobody to judge me but God because we've all done the same one way or another.
So I'm going to finish this by saying.. Truly forgive if you are going to forgive somebody, and if you are going to ask for forgiveness, DON'T DO IT AGAIN!!!
We believe there are some things that are not easy to forgive and forget because we feel that if we forgive them, they will abuse your kindness and keep doing it over and over and over again. We do have a limit to tolerate everything, as well as we should, who wants to be a pushover?
I would ask my friends about forgiveness and I noticed that girls in general "Forgive but do not FORGET!!!"
The best thing I did was search the good book and read about what God felt about forgiveness.. and I came across this…
Heb 8:12
12 "For I will be merciful to their iniquities,
And I will remember their sins no more."
(NASB)
Which practically means God does forgive and Forget.. that is very great and all and good to know because that is a good example of forgiveness…but then again, I thought about the times I would ask for forgiveness and kept on doing the same thing over and over again…and that is where there is nobody to judge me but God because we've all done the same one way or another.
So I'm going to finish this by saying.. Truly forgive if you are going to forgive somebody, and if you are going to ask for forgiveness, DON'T DO IT AGAIN!!!
Thursday, June 2, 2011
Jealousy =O
We have all been jealous once in a while…some of us do not like to show how we feel, but some of us have no problem showing our jealousy side.
What is jealousy? Jealousy is not to be confused with Envy..they are similar in some ways but both are very different from each other.
Jealousy is felt by humans, animals and even God himself..it is proven in the Bible that my God is a jealous God but I wouldn't have it any other way because I kind of believe that jealousy is a confirmation that you are loved so I'm glad God loves me,lol
There can be jealousy between friends…for example, you may chill with a person everyday and all of a sudden they become best friends with a different person and you may start getting a little jealous that you feel like they took your friend away from you.
Jealousy is very common in relationships…REAL COMMON!!!! lol
You have a significant other and out of no where, you feel intimidated by another person talking or being tooo friendly to your boyfriend/girlfriend.
Yes I use the word intimidated because this kind of jealousy usually involves ENVY. Envy is something you see in somebody else that you don't see in yourself.
That's why I believe that if you want to be in a relationship, you have to feel comfortable and confident in yourself because confidence is really sexy to any gender of sex….UNLESS that person gave you a reason to be jealous be cause of they are not trustworthy, in that case , good luck to you =)
Animals can be jealous because my dog shows me that he wants affection all the time. Pitbulls are known to really show their emotions and they will sit in between you and somebody if you and a stranger to your dog were to see you two sit together. My dog receives a lot of attention in my house so my dog is not that type of dog so you'll rarely see him doing that.
I see nothing wrong with being a little jealous but when it comes to going over board..that's when some lines get crossed. It's one thing being jealous but one thing being jealous if a person doesn't give you a reason to be jealous..
Just like one of my favorite quote says...
What is jealousy? Jealousy is not to be confused with Envy..they are similar in some ways but both are very different from each other.
Jealousy is felt by humans, animals and even God himself..it is proven in the Bible that my God is a jealous God but I wouldn't have it any other way because I kind of believe that jealousy is a confirmation that you are loved so I'm glad God loves me,lol
There can be jealousy between friends…for example, you may chill with a person everyday and all of a sudden they become best friends with a different person and you may start getting a little jealous that you feel like they took your friend away from you.
Jealousy is very common in relationships…REAL COMMON!!!! lol
You have a significant other and out of no where, you feel intimidated by another person talking or being tooo friendly to your boyfriend/girlfriend.
Yes I use the word intimidated because this kind of jealousy usually involves ENVY. Envy is something you see in somebody else that you don't see in yourself.
That's why I believe that if you want to be in a relationship, you have to feel comfortable and confident in yourself because confidence is really sexy to any gender of sex….UNLESS that person gave you a reason to be jealous be cause of they are not trustworthy, in that case , good luck to you =)
Animals can be jealous because my dog shows me that he wants affection all the time. Pitbulls are known to really show their emotions and they will sit in between you and somebody if you and a stranger to your dog were to see you two sit together. My dog receives a lot of attention in my house so my dog is not that type of dog so you'll rarely see him doing that.
I see nothing wrong with being a little jealous but when it comes to going over board..that's when some lines get crossed. It's one thing being jealous but one thing being jealous if a person doesn't give you a reason to be jealous..
Just like one of my favorite quote says...
"Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening."
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