As much as we say that we hate drama, I am here to say to say that in the contrary, PEOPLE LOVE DRAMA!!!!!
I say this because I have the right to after living a blessed 23 years of my life. I've been in relationships in which I had a good girlfriend and I admit I was the one acting shady, but as I grew older I grew more mature and learned to appreciate a good girl, but then the tables turned and they started acting shady and people would ask me, "why are you still with her???"
That questions made me think if I liked getting treated like crap,lol...this may be funny to me but in real life some people do. I in one hand do not like getting treated like crap, in fact, I get rid of people that dare not give me my full respect as I do onto them. But in reality, I hear so many stories in where my friend's (girls) boyfriends are treating them like crap and I ask them the same question.."DO YOU LIKE GETTING TREATED LIKE CRAP???"
What I'm trying to say here is that most people love drama for some reason. For instance, let's suppose you wake up early than the usual for work and so far you are having a great day and everything is going right...but all of a sudden you ran across a rumor going around about you that is not true. Why would you let that mess up your day even when you were having a great day and just because you heard a rumor and you decided to say, "I'm having the worst day ever"....seriously, are you really going to forget that you were blessed to live another day, are you going to forget that your children or husband or boyfriend kissed you good-bye before you left to work? We tend to make a bigger deal of the stupidest things and not appreciate that not many people get to see tomorrow or even worse, a close person to you gets to see another day and yet you don't shoot them a text or call wishing them a great day but you do stress about about somebody talking behind your back.
In relationships, most people don't appreciate a good or good woman when they have one. They don't appreciate that they send you a good morning text or goodnight text every night, you may at first but then become used to it that you start caring less about it. You don't appreciate that you are not the only one doing the chores and that your significant other gives you massages when you come tired from work...but yet you complain that you have to work all day and come to a dirty house, dishes are not done, and that your significant other is either hanging around his boys/ girls all the time or that he is always glued to the t.v playing video games and caring less about your existence.
Learn to see your blessing and count them one by one every time something bad is happening in your life. If something bad happens, realize that it could be worse. If your boyfriend/girlfriend is acting suspicious and he/she is stressing you out with their b.s... why when in a previous relationship you were treated like a king/queen you took it for granted? So learn to value and have respect for yourself and see that you deserve better.
Realize that just because you are close for your lights to be cut off, there are people out there in danger of losing their homes to foreclosure. Realize that true friends don't rub stuff in your face but instead let life take its course and let u see later on in life that you lost a great friend..when you realize this, you will stop rubbing stuff in people's faces, you will know that things happen for a reason, you will see the silver lining in a cloud but better of all, you will be able to count all you blessing when something bad happens to you.
Nice blog Obie! You always have a way of making people see things positively.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I think we are blind to the affects of our actions on other people...until we have been hurt by the actions of others...you never really UNDERSTAND the pain you have caused someone until you have felt that pain yourself.
It is similar to death. We hear and see of death all the time, but only until it finds its way onto your doorstep will you ever truly grasp it. It's sad that sometimes we learn to appreciate things after they are already gone. You only have one life, treat people how you want to be treated. <3
I couldn't have said it better myself, i agree with you 100%
ReplyDeleteExcept for me, I changed a little bit from what I experienced in life and now I treat others the same way they treat me.
I can really relate to what you wrote. I think we never tend to pay attention to all the small details and the persons that make our life so special. We focus on the big details instead of appreciating every single detail that makes n completes that image. Its sad to say but we don't appreciate every aspect of or lives until we lose it or we cross paths with death itself. We need to learn to appreciate everything and everyone that we have in life. Even when things are not great. I love your blog bt I have one question... how can we balance everything and everyone in our lives so that they don't think your taking them for granted?
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, I want to thank you for making time to read my blog, truly honored to have many intellectual people as yourself reading my blog.
ReplyDeleteThat is a good question, but then again, by asking that question, it makes me realize that you are one step closer into preventing in not taking somebody else for granted. Many people are hard headed and selfish, not saying that everybody is like that but honestly, too many are lost in their own little world and what is going on their life's, that they forget that they share it with us, therefore they only think "Me this, Me that", and not really put others peoples thoughts or feeling into consideration. I stray away from these kind of people, always complaining about life thinking they are the only person in the world going through something. If you really care about them and they care about you, they will appreciate that you were there for them and they would learn from situation and move on...but if they are constantly with the same thing going on their life and they don"t want to listen to you...then shame on them. That being said, people will think whatever they want to think so don't worry about whether they think that you are taking them for granted, as long as you know that you are not and have a good conscience about it, then you have nothing to worry about.